Need a Quick Shift in Mindset?

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When was the last time something went off track with your projects? Well, if you’re like me the answer is most likely every. single. day.

Those days when you walk in the door to see the painter just completed painting the room IN THE WRONG COLOR. Or when you finally get the delivery of the perfect table and you unpackage it with glee only to find out IT’S DAMAGED! UGH! You want to pull your hair out or cry or QUIT! (And on the really bad days, it’s all of the above, right?)

But, I want you to know that these bumps in the road aren’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s even possible to have a better outcome because of these snafus. Really? You bet!

When you shift your perspective when things don’t go as planned, you will be open to viewing the new possibilities that these detours reveal. But, I know it’s really hard when you’re in the moment of incredible frustration.

Next time you are thrown a curveball (like later today, right?) try to shift your perspective with these helpful hints.

  1. Breathe
    It’s amazing what your brain can do when you feed it oxygen. Set yourself up to make the most of any situation by taking a moment to JUST BREATHE. Take five deep breaths, then ask yourself, “How can I fix this problem? How can I make this work?”
  2. Get excited to find a BETTER solution (like you have before)
    This isn’t the first challenge you’ve faced and it certainly won’t be your last. But, you got through that one too, right? So, believe in your abilities to make the most of any situation and brainstorm your way to a solution (that COULD be even better than what you had planned!)
  3. What’s the real problem?
    In some cases, we’re focused on the trigger that makes us change course, when we can achieve the underlying goal in another way. This happened to me when some rough plumbing valves didn’t show up as scheduled. So, I assumed the plumbers would be stalled and have nothing to do that day {and I was LOSING IT. Seriously}. Even though nothing I did got the valves delivered as promised, my stress level lowered by asking a simple question: “Was there any work that could be done without the valves?” Why, yes, yes there was! I just didn’t want the project to stall, so in the end it didn’t matter that the valves were delayed. The real problem of ensuring the plumbers had work was solved.
  4. Write (or talk) it out
    A change in our mindset can be accomplished by getting out of our minds a bit. Take a few minutes to write down the issues you face. You often feel relieved just by writing it down. I promise! Just try it!When your issues involve another human—as most of them do whether those humans are vendors, contractors or partners in your project—there’s nothing better than talking it out. As they say, two minds are better than one and your collective success depends on figuring out the best way to move forward. Here are some hints: Listen for understanding. You work with other professionals who can bring their expertise and insight into the mix to find the best solution. When you LISTEN first, you appreciate the contributions of those professionals. I have had countless issues solved because the pros I partner with have expertise in an area that I don’t and were able to come up with a solution I never would have thought of on my own. Don’t make it personal. Focus on the problem and finding the solution.Check your attitude. Your attitude and whether you enter a conversation with a solution-oriented or combative mindset is critical to a successful outcome. If you’re blinded by negativity and ready for a fight, you won’t get far. You’re in this situation together, so don’t alienate someone who might be able to help you find the best solution.

There’s nothing you can do to prevent things from going wrong with your design projects, but you can choose how you respond to those problems. To help you chart a course to a solution and shift your perspective, download my Gaining Insight Worksheet NOW.

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